Mad as Hell....

Lawd have mercy on me. I'm pissed the eff off right now! I'm planning my cousin's surprise 40th bday. He is my favorite cousin and we were practically raised together. He's 18 months older than me and like a brother. His sister is 9months younger than me and while he and I live in NYC she's a lawyer in Buffalo(where we're originally from).

Back in August I told her I wanted to throw S a surprise party she said yeah I'm down. I ONLY included her because that was the right thing to do. Y'all she's made this entire process a disaster. I LIVE IN NYC so I AM familiar with the places. Why is she trying to dictate where to have the party. She kept telling me 40/40 club. WHAT?? Are you effin serious? The mothereffin 40/40 Club. That place is a damn tourist trap. It's overpriced and wack as shit! My cousin does not want to be at a crowded ass club. He would want more of a lounge. I'm telling her all of this and this beyatch has the nerve and audacity to ask me if I was contributing any money? WHAT?? WHAT? IT WAS MY MOTHEREFFIN IDEA TO THROW YOUR EFFIN BROTHER A SURPRISE PARTY! I'M JUST COMING UP WITH IDEAS AND NOT GOING TO CONTRIBUTE ANYTHING! I was enraged at this. She has made this process miserable and I LOVE planning parties and gatherings.

We finally come to an agreement on where to have it. I go and speak to the events planner and in the middle of negotiating two comped bottles of champagne, removing the cake cutting fee and getting another bottle for half price. Why did this chick go and email the dude and tell him to book a table for 6 people? I was so fricken pissed off that I had to race to the place to speak to the man in person. Since she did this via phone and he knew she didn't know the layout of the place he placed her stupid ass in the back corner. Meanwhile I wanted the couches in the front. In the end I got the couches but I'm still negotiating the other stuff. I have NO idea why she would book a table for 6 people when I have a list of at least 28 of his friends. Fast forward to this morning. I received an Evite from my cousin about this party. Y'all this was the worst invitation I've ever seen. It was the Poker one that had a deck of cards. WTF does that theme have to do with a SURPRISE 40th? It at least came from me and her but in the subject line she just had "Surprise 40th bday party" Surprise for WHO? She was sending this evite out to people she didn't know and the address was wrong, she had her phone number(umm why? You don't live in NYC so if someone is lost etc you can't guide them) and told people to be there at 9(it's NYC NO ONE is going to be there at 9). Here's the kicker she locked the guest list so you couldn't invite anyone. Hey dumbass I have all his coworkers emails! I text her and ask her if she could unlock so I can merge the contacts. And to have everyone be at the party at 10 and we'll bring my cousin at 10:45. Guess what? No response. Evite still locked. So, guess what I did. I created an Evite and sent it to all the people I had emails for. Yeah, it's petty but how was I going to get the information out to his coworkers and his friends that she doesn't even know. She invited five people from Buffalo and not a single person from NYC. WTF? So, I ordered custom M&M's with my cousin's Kindergarten picture and some cupcakes. I didn't ask her because I don't want it be an issue. I'm not asking her for half the money. This is on me. I can't take it. This is so damn ridiculous and it could have been so easy.

What would you guys have done?

Merry Belated Christmas

It's been three weeks! Damn, where does the time go. I hope everyone had a great Christmas. I did. I went home to Buffalo and had a chance to spend some time with my parents, brother, sister and nephews. My youngest nephew D wanted to see snow so bad but he was SOL. Funny thing it snowed in Dallas(where he lives) on Christmas Eve.
It was so nice to see the looks on my nephews face when they opened up their gifts. Even though they are 15 and 20 they still get so excited. I got the 15 year old the new IPod Nano in burnt orange and he was in LOVE. The 20 year old I gave $200 and he was super excited! He's a college sophomore so any money is great for him.
All in all it was great to see my family for a few days! I'm back home in Brooklyn and chilling. There are only 2 more days in 2009 so I will be posting my goal failures of the year and my new goals.

I hope everyone had a great Christmas!

My Mom Always Told Me

My mom used to tell me the older you get you'll only have a handful of friends. When I was younger I don't know if I quite believed her since I always had a ton of friends. In elementary school I had so many friends that the principle called my mom into the office because she thought maybe I was a gang member and I was intimidating the kids to be my friends! Uhh no! In high school I had a ton of friends because I knew a lot of people and I played three sports. Even when I got to college I made a ton of friends. After graduation I kept in touch with a few people but it has dwindled. Life happens.

I still have my best friend from the first day of Montessori. Our birthdays are two days a part. She knows me in ways only a selected few do. She's never come to visit because she's terrified to leave her kids(even though she has a gem of a husband). That really doesn't matter. We speak almost every day even if it's only for 2 minutes. I've had numerous doctor's appointments for my ear in the last week and she calls to see what was said and what the next step is. She's the one who tells me I'm overreacting on something or someone. She's the calm practical side. At the end of the day she is my ace! I have a few others that are in my crew(as Kyle would say) Chad, Mica, Tam and Niles. These five are my PEOPLES! If I do something that don't like they check me, if there's something that seems off about our relationship..they ask me, if I let shit slide...they ask why? They are my checks and balances and I wouldn't have it any other way! I RIDE FOR THEM!

Since I joined Facebook I've become acquainted with many old friends and some new ones. I've been deleted as a "friend" four times. One because the dude was just an asshole, two my ex boyfriend's new gf broke into his FB and deleted almost all the women. He found out and friend requested us all again and dumped her ass! Three another ex boyfriend's fiancee' made him delete all ex girlfriends and he did...oh well! My last delete was by a woman who was my supposed friend. I haven't known this woman for a long period of time but I started to hang out and spend time with her and thought she was cool people. Apparently a situation took place and I stayed neutral so that wasn't good enough. I along with anyone she met thru me was deleted. I personally think that's some bitch ass shit.But hey if it makes her feel better then so be it! I think it's pretty sad that a grown ass woman thinks her behavior is ok. If that was someone from my crew they would have said "Shell xyz?" but to delete me and others who really had nothing to do with it. Is immature, petty and stupid. The funny thing is I was actually starting to consider this girl a friend but people ALWAYS show their ass after awhile. The funny thing is whatever was going on wasn't that serious. Let me rephrase that...it wasn't that serious to me! I personally have bigger things to worry about like how after more testing I lost some more hearing in my left ear and now some in my right. How I have to get a Cat Scan and how the doctor is talking about cutting into my damn brain. That's what the fuck I'm worried about. How my mom is having knee replacement surgery next Thursday but wants to cancel it so she can be here with me for my scan. Knowing damn well she needs the surgery because she is now walking around bone on bone! That's the shit I'm worried about! Not about why some immature person deleted me and didn't have the balls to come and say "blah blah blah." But just like my mom always told me.....you'll only have a handful of friends! Boy she ain't neva lied!

Friends
How many of us have them
Friends
The ones we can depend on
Friends
How many of us have them
~Whodini

Yes, I'm a slacker

I've slacked all week on blogging! I thought I'd do better because I was on a roll of blogging three times a week! But I failed miserably! I have my reasons though. I've been trying to plan this birthday party I'm throwing for myself and my sister and nephew flew in on Wednesday and I had some MAJOR cleaning to do! But I promise I'll do better. Next week is my birthday week so I'm going to try and post at least 4 times! Pray for me y'all!

*Side note* My 14 year old nephew, Darian told me yesterday how much he loved me and this has been the best trip! Ahh the little things that make you smile! Have a good weekend everyone. I'm off to Baltimore and DC to meet the rest of the fam for the weekend!

Family..Can't live with em can't live without em

I told you all about the argument me and my sister got into over my nephew. That was two months ago and me and my sister still haven't spoke. I know what I'm about to say isn't good. But I'm going to say it anyway. It doesn't bother me not to speak to her. I love her and never want to see anything bad happen to her or her family(maybe her stupid azz husband...hehe). But I don't feel a great sense of loss. I think it's because this time I wasn't wrong. I've been known to flip the eff out! I told my nephew to do what he wanted to do in relation to his major. I said this is YOUR life and you have to live it the way YOU see fit. It's not mine your mom or dad's!You're going going to make mistakes as we all did but you have to do what makes you happy. If you don't want to be a doctor then don't if you want to major in finance. Have at it! I stand by what I say to this day and I would tell him the same thing! I'm all for the agree to disagree but what pissed me off the most was her attack on my character. She said I was a horrible aunt and I had an opportunity to tell him something good and I didn't and that I need to grow up. I don't have any children so I can only imagine how hard it is to let go of someone you love so much to blossom. But I didn't tell him to drop out of college. I told him to follow his heart! So, when she said that to me I instantly went for the jugular and told her that her and her husband needed to learn how to be good parents because so far they have failed miserably! Now was all that necessary...probably not but I was defending my character.

A little background. I'm the youngest in my family. My sister is 8 years older, my bros are 12 and 16 years older. So,yeah I'm young by A LOT. My mom was married before then she married my dad and had me! I always ask my dad how the heck he could get with a woman who had three kids. I guess she had that "good good!" LMBAO! Anyway their dad has always played a part in their life and mine too. He's a good man. When my siblings would go see him for the weekend they always brought something back for me from him. Hell, he had to pick me up a few times from the airport when my parents couldn't make it. My dad and him used to be Bid Whist partners! Yeah, strange I know but the demise of their marriage had nothing to do with my dad. My siblings love my dad like he's their own. Anyway, my sister's dad has been sick for awhile. He lives in Dallas not to far from her. My mom called me to tell me he went in the hospital. I asked if I should not buy my ticket home and get one to Dallas. My mom says no, let's just wait and see. So, a few days later my sister calls me and leaves me this f*cked up message. Telling me that even though she's not talking to me. I really demonstrated that I didn't care and that her dad is on his death bed. Talks more ish then slams the phone down. All of this on my voicemail. Ten minutes later my mom calls me and said my sister was crying and ish saying that even though she's not talking to me that she can't believe I didn't call. Now I know I probably seem cold hearted but after speaking to my mom and her telling me that he wasn't that bad. Plus I know me. I know that I was still pissed off and after she left me that message I was livid so I knew if I called her my demeanor would not have been conducive to the situation. Needless to say I called her back and left her a message. I don't think it was mean(but I'm sure she thinks so). I told her how I didn't appreciate the message she left and the slamming down of the phone. I also told her one of the reasons I didn't call was because I didn't feel like I was going to be genuine. Of course I told her that if she spoke to me or my voice mail like that again I was going to pop the piss out of her. I know that wasn't necessary but damn if people can't just take me there. So, now I'm back to being pissed. I know life is too short and I shouldn't hold grudges but she tried to shoot down my character! Uggggg what to do!

Keep your family and business completely seperated.

What up blog people or shall I say blog peep! I should be posting daily since I am new to blog world. I've been so busy lately that I can't find the time to blog! But I promise I'm going to do better! I'm going to do a post everyday this week! Saturday is my birthday(yeah) so I will blog until then. I think I will post a picture of myself all day Saturday! I don't know why I feel so uneasy about that but I think its because I know a lot of people who blog and don't want them all in my page....lol! Oh well!

Anyway, I'm having a birthday party on Saturday for those of you in NYC please come by! It's a good ol' fashion house party with food, liquor and dj! Feel free to come through and celebrate with me! I threw one last year and it far exceeded my expectations! I invited like 60 people and my girl invited like 60 at least 200 showed up. It was bananas! The dj played his last song at 6:53am. I would like to shut it down this year around 4 but if it's rollin I'm going to keep rollin too....lol! So during this party planning process I was hunting down the dj we used last year to see if he would be interested in doing the party again. So, I found him and he was trying to act all brand new and shyt. Trying to charge a $100 more than he did last year. I was like are you serious? Mind y'all this is after my cousin had to go and pick him and his equipment up and help him unload it. It was so damn hot my cousin had to go home and take another shower. I asked him if he was going to need assistance this year and he said yeah. WTF? How the hell you going up on the price and you don't even have your own transportation? GTFOH with that bullshyt! So I was like never mind. So we find two more people who can possibly do their one two on the wheels of steel! Can anyone tell me why they both had all the equipment but no speakers!! *crickets* How the f*ck are you semi dj and not have any speakers. People just don't loan out speakers! Grrrr! So yesterday we had to get on our grind and find a dj. Thank goodness we found one that's not trying to rape us and is pretty good....he plays lots of old school! The dj can make or break the party! So now that the dj is secured, it leaves who is going to be on the grill. The guy we used last year is not reliable. I'm like you don't have a damn job it's either yes or no! WTF! Well his ass is short. My girl's cousin volunteered to marinate all the meat on Thursday and to man the grills! So two of the most important things are taken care of...food and music!

My cousin told me to call my other cousin G to tell him about the party. I don't mess too much with my father's side of the family because I think they are NUTS! I have a rack of first cousins that live in NYC and I talk to one but the reason I talk to him is because he was raised upstate with me and we are 18 mos apart. Our fathers are brothers and their five sisters all lived in NYC when we were growing up. They all left Alabama and came to the Big Apple. Anyway my cousins were raised in Brooklyn me my siblings, my counsin and his sister were raised upstate. So these NYC cousins are always scheming and trying to come up and that shyt gets on my nerves! So, I just don't bother to much with them. When I moved here my mom said don't tell them people where you live...lmbao! Anyway I ran into my cousin G and he gave me the bs about us being cousins and how we live in the same borough...blah blah blah! So yesterday I called G and invited him to my party.
Me: Hey G it's Shelly
G: Yo, what's good fam?
Me: I'm having a party on Saturday for my birthday so come by. Bring a bottle of your choice and I got everything else. Food, dj, wine and beer will be provided.
G: So, what are you bringing(sounding like damn I'm bringing a bottle what the hell u providing)
Me: *crickets*
G:Aiiight then I'll come by at 9.
Me: *sigh* the party starts at 9 G.
G:Ohhhh word, well you know how I do. I gotta make my entrance, so I'll be there at 11:00.
Me: Bye

This is why I don't deal with these people. Lawd please let me keep my cool! This fool hangs up with me and calls my other cousin and says "man Shelly is always hanging up the phone on me." Beyatch you should be happy your dumb ass only gets the dial tone.
*WARNING G ACT STUPID SATURDAY NIGHT AND I PROMISE YOU THE WORDS THAT COME OUT OF MY MOUTH WILL MAKE YOUR DUMB ASS WANT TO BE IN THE RING WITH TYSON WHEN HE WAS AT HIS PINNACLE! TRY ME BITCH! *

Father's Day Tribute

Ok. I'm back. I needed all week to get myself together from the family trip(more on that later). I love my siblings I just can't stand my brother in law and neither can my brothers!

Anyway, Happy Father's Day to all you dad's out there! I want to wish my dad a special day!
My dad doesn't say many words. People always ask how my mom and him have been together all these years...shit I sometime ask myself the same question! LOL! I am a daddy's girl. My dad never spanked me. He left that to my mom and boy did she tear my azz up on the regular! LOL! When I did get my azz waxed I would scream to my dad "help me,she's trying to kill me!" "please daddy, don't let her kill me" He would have the saddest look in his eyes and sometimes he would tear up and walk out of the room. After my mom was finished wearin my little azz out. I would run to my daddy and he would pick me up and wipe my tears away and I would say to him"why did u let her do that to me" He would just look at me and give me a big hug! Meanwhile my mom would yell "don't worry that won't be your last azz whoopin" LOL! And it wasn't! My daddy taught me how to ride a bike, play catch,shoot a basketball,love politics, love sports and to value a dollar. He always said if you can't buy it with cash or check you shouldn't have it! My love for sports comes from my daddy too. I love college basketball with everything I have(GO TARHEELS) , NFL and track and field. My dad and I would sit for hours and watch sports on tv. Shit my dad even watches curling...wtf? Any boyfriend or male friend I would bring home I would always tell them to talk sports and he would be loved...lol! I spoke to my dad today and the first thing we spoke about was the Celtics/Lakers game and of course Tiger kicking azz on the back 9 yesterday! Then we spoke about Tim Russert passing away. My parents and I were big fans of Meet the Press plus I'm from Buffalo and so was Tim. In all my years of playing sports I think my dad only missed 5 events. I played soccer, basketball and track and I also ran summer track and went to countless camps! He was my biggest champion and biggest critic(in a good way). He would say"Shell you stood straight up out of the blocks, you didn't use your legs when you were at the line." He never sat with my mom cause he said she was just being a mom and cheering and not looking at form....lol! My dad also taught me to be blessed by all the material things I had growing up. I was so spoiled and that drove him crazy...lol! He would always tell stories about how he grew up poor in rural Alabama and once he graduated he went into the Air Force to send money home! After the Air Force he ended up in Minnesota and worked two jobs to put himself through college. I never had to work in high school or college and came out debt free thanks to my parents hard work! I know as I have grown older me and my dad don't always see eye to eye especially about my job(s) he is from the school you have a good job stay at the company for 35 years. I' m not about that. If I feel like I can't grow where I'm at then it's time to seek new employment. I'm in investment banking and there are different divisions I would like to get into. I was at one major bank and hit a wall and went to another hit a wall there(plus everyone was getting canned so I had enough sense to get the hell out before it happened to me) and now I'm at my present employer. I'm staying put for now because the credit crunch has everyone scurred..lol but a lot of IB's have a hiring freeze. Do trust when the market gets better the kid will be looking! I believe I hit a block in my present position. Although my dad doesn't agree with my moves he always has my back. When I moved to NYC I didn't even have a job. I just had to trust in God and know that my skills would get me employment and they did! I doubt I'd do that now but I needed to get the hell out of Houston!(That's another story). Through all my crazy moves, ideas and thoughts my daddy still loves his Shellybelly unconditionally and I love him!
So thanks daddy for always loving me and my craziness!
I love you forever!

Proud Moments

What up blog family. I've been slacking this week it was a hectic first half of the week! But I'm chillin in Dallas now for my nephew's graduation from high school!

I remember when he was first born, December 2, 1989. I didn't get a chance to physically see him until April because he was in Houston and I was in high school and had basketball and then track. When I finally saw him he was a cute baby but I wasn't that thrilled. I still don't like infants(what the hell am I going to do when I have one?). For some odd reason he took to me. Fast forward 3 years from that moment he became my buddy. He is the most mild mannered child to be 18 absolutely nothing phases him! I'm so blessed that I had an opportunity when I lived in Houston in 2005 to spend a lot of time with him to see him grow into the young man he has turned out to be. He has a brother who is five years younger than him and the example he sets for him everyday makes me so proud. My sister says he has some of my tendencies, crazy ass looks, silly, and extremely spoiled! He can't help it he's the first born grandchild and first nephew! In 18 years he hasn't been in any real trouble...a couple of years ago him and some of his little buddies called 900 numbers and blew the phone bill up!LMAO! Other than that he has been a model child! He exceled at sports and can play the hell out of drums. His junior year his marching band played the song he composed for the halftime show. He's such a talented young man. I just pray he uses all his talents wisely.

On Saturday, June 7 my nephew will graduate with high honors and a member of the National Honor Society! He will be attending The University of Texas and majoring in Bio Physics(who does that) In a few years he will be following his passion and entering medical school and going on to become a Neurosurgeon! I know I'm bragging a bit but I am soooo proud of him! Even if he doesn't choose to go to medical school I know that whatever he chooses in life he will excel at. He represents the next generation of young black men and I know that he will do great things!!

Myron your Auntie Shelly is so proud of you and all of your achievements!

CONGRATULATIONS MYRON WE ALL LOVE YOU!

Oh. I guess I have to give my sister and husband some credit for raising such an impressive young man!