Tuesday, October 27, 2009


I had an ex boyfriend who would always say "Your attitude determines your altitude." This quote makes so much sense to me. If you're going to have a stink azz attitude you're not going to get very far. Be it your job, relationships or life in general. I think all of us have needed a little bit of attitude adjustment. I know I have. My mom used to tell me as a child that "My mouth and attitude would over power my azz!" I still laugh about that to this day. Because not only did she tell me that but her hand or belt was stingin my azz!

Last week I was at the gym I was taking a strength and conditioning class. The instructor asked someone to please remove their IPod so they could hear the instruction and know the proper form to lift the weights etc. You would have thought the instructor told this chick that she was fat and ugly the way this chick carried on. She was snapping her head, rolling her eyes and sucking her teeth. Now was all that shyt necessary? He just asked you to remove your Ipod for HIS class. WTF? I speak to this lady at the gym and I've seen her have attitude with people before for no apparent reason. I also over heard her tell her girlfriend that she was no longer going to class because she missed to many and it didn't matter because her sleep did. Mind you she needs this class to keep her job. So her girl asked her what are you going to do? Attitude chick said umm I guess take it in January.
After I witnessed her attitude with the instructor and heard her say this. I thought of the quote "Your attitude determines your altitude." Because this chick can't go far in life with that attitude. I don't care if she's the smartest person on her team. Her promotions will be few and far in between.

It upsets me because she was black. I think as black people we can do better than that. The "man" isn't always trying to hold us back. With this stink azz attitude you're holding yourself back! I love my people and I want for us to do better as a whole but when you have a stink azz attitude you're not helping ANY of us! I'm far from perfect and I KNOW I can demonstrate major attitude but I also know when to check that shyt!

Do y'all know anyone who has a lot of potential but they're not going far in their job or relationships because of attitude?


me said...

YES, Yes, and yes! I know a couple of people like this and what really trips me out is that they are the ones who always think it's a conspriracy of the "man" to keep them down.

I actually know many women like this who are or have been the same way in their romantic relationships; always catching an attitude about nothing. Telling people what they AREN'T going to do or the only way they will do it, etc.

I've never been quick to catch a stank attitude...it's never been cool to me. I don't get pissy over stuff sometimes, though, however not often. It's usually bad customer service that sets me off, lol.


The F$%K it List said...

It's really sad that so many of Black women let the stereotypes of who we are keep us from our true greatness.

I know a few women like this, some in my circle. The ones in my circle I chose to ignore when they reveal the ABW cape. I will however check someone the first time, its up to them to make the change.

Rich Fitzgerald said...

I see it more so in relationships. I have an associate who is super foine. She pulls ball players and men with major grip, but she keeps wondering why she's still single. I know why. It's because she is quick to fly off the handle. But that is just who she is. She'll figure it out sooner or later. No man wants that in a woman, no matter how fine she is.

12kyle said...

Attitude, good or bad, can take you a long way. You determine which way it'll be.

It's tough when sistas have a bad attitude. I think it sets them back...then sets us back!

Arnetta Green said...

Don't know anybody like that right now, thank Gawd! I've seen it all when it comes to ABW syndrome and could never identify with that way of being (which always made me the "odd girl" "actin white girl" "nice girl" of whatever random group I may have had to work in). I am going to have to use that saying, though, "Attitude determines altitude." Good post!

E.M.H. said...

Unfortunately I do know someone like that and her attitude affects her job and friendships. We have actually stopped being friends because I couldn't take it anymore. It was just so unnecessary. I'm not one to be easily angered and even if I am having a down day I try not to let it show in my attitude or my interactions with others. I like that quote "your attitude determines your altitude" :-)

dessex said...

I sure do...I work with one of those people that have a stank ass attitude. Most people just stay away from her.

ShellyShell said...

@Arnetta Thanks for stopping by!
@EMH Thanks for stopping by I'm going to try to post more often...lol!

@Everyone I think we all know people like this! The key is to key your attitude great!