Monday, March 30, 2009

I Got a Question for you

How do you get rid of a friend who's still in your same social circle? For the past 18 mos. I've kicked it with this chick a lot but I realize she gets on my damn nerves! At first I was like hmmm maybe she just likes to run her mouth but now I'm like this chick gets on my damn nerves. A few people in the group said she came to them and said she sensed I was pulling away from her but she doesn't know why. I'm not that hard to get along with. I don't like typical chick shit with the cattiness,drama. I just want to go get some drinks and hang with my people. But damn if EVERY time you tell a story she has done what your are talking about or has some other absurd story to top it! I've had people who just met her ask me the same question. The other night I called her on her shyt. I just flat out said "you're lying!" She said some of the most absurd off the wall shit. Even my friends husband gave a side-eye! And he's the nicest man in the world. I feel like she is trying to compete with me and others. A few examples: she was talking about having student loans. I stayed quiet. Why? Because I don't have any! Then she turns around and says to me "You would have some if your school was more expensive." I said "oh really? Now you in my parent's pockets?" I told her"Trick I don't care if I went to Harvard, my parents set it up so we would NOT have loans." I think that shit is complete hatin! Then she constantly talks about her luxury car and how she's not driving because the upkeep on her car is more! What? I would rather drive on the highway then to drive the bumpy ass,pothole infested streets of NYC! Then she says why don't you drive your car it's paid for. Beyatch I don't care if I still had a car payment if I had to drive somewhere then my black ass would drive! YOU buy a car to drive the beyatch! Not to just stare at it! I don't care if it's a fricken Pinto,Cutlass or a Mercedes! These are just two examples I'm giving. But the other day's foolwang really took the cake for me. A friend had a party and everyone brought stuff,bottles,food etc. Why did this chick take her rum,cheese and cracker platter and shrimp cocktail at the end of the night. Last I checked you leave your shit for the hostess! There was maybe a 1/4 cup of rum,6 shrimp and a few pieces of cheese/crackers. Someone had asked if they could take the 6 shrimp left. The lady had the shrimp on a plate and went to get foil. Shrimp snatcher comes and puts her hands in the plant. Another woman said "X is taking those." SS said,"So, I brought them and proceeded to put them in a zip lock bag. Everyone was stunned that she was so adamant about taking HER stuff. To me that shows NO home training and NO class! This chick packed TWO big ass plates with 5 Seafood cakes,5 pieces of fish,5 pieces of chicken and a ton of other things! The hostess told me that she didn't even get a piece of fish or seafood cakes cause this chick was eating them all and had the nerve to take them all!

What do you guys think? I can give a few more examples but thought you'd get the picture from the ones I stated.

11 comments:

Serenity3-0 said...

I don't know the chick, but I'd probably have to remove her from my invite list. I was friends with a chick who did one thing that I considered shady. Mind you we have the same circle of friends. I told her that day, you don't ever have to worry about hearing from me again and I meant it. We have not spoken since. We haven't been in the same place at the same time yet, but if we do, I'll pretend she's invisible.
PS. What happened to regular blogging???????? I come over here to check your page and it's the same post! LOL

Keith said...

Actually What you might do is ,you and a few others who feel the same way you do have an intervention type meeting with old girl..where a couple of you air out your grievences with her. Always have a neutral party when you do this..so that the flow of the conversation stays constructive and it doesn't turn into a big fight.

Me and a couple of my friends did this with a guy we knew who never
paid for his drinks and always slipped out of the club and left us with the bill, whenever we hung out together.

The Results- He don't come around much anymore...He's too ashamed that his little scam was found out.

Problem Solved!

Hope that helps!

Aretha said...

I'm sorry I have no advice. When this has happened to me in the past I remained cordial (with hello and goodbye)but was straight forward about whatever bothered me. She kinda just faded to the background and all was right with the world...lol.

One of my former co-workers was just like this girl you're talking about. If someone said they used to be a professional pooper scooper she would have said, "me too" Those kind of ppl trip me out.

chele said...

I can't be around people like that. Too much drama for me. She already feels you pulling away and I would just continue to do so.

The Jaded NYer said...

I wouldn't give her a second thought and just go about your business. As long as she doesn't address you, etc, there's no need for you to even remember she exists!

12kyle said...

You don't beat around the bush with folks. It sounds like she's the type who can't take a hint. I think you've gotta tell her how you feel. She may not wanna hear it...but she'll respect it

The F$%K it List said...

You know how I feel about this, if she's part of a group then just ignore her. There is no reason to let her even think that she is significant.

Hi and Bye thats all you have for her.

ShellyShell said...

@everyone. I had to go out with her azz for dinner on Thursday with others. I said I had low blood pressure and I suffer from hypoglycemia. Well, guess what? Her pressure is lower than mine(I think she would be close to death)! Plus she has tumors, kidney stones, fibroids etc! For real, your 28! Shut the eff up! I didn't let it bother me this time. I just laughed cause she sounded soo ridiculous!

lyfesimplified said...

Okay,When you said, "How do you get rid of a friend who's still in your same social circle" The first thing that came to my mind was sleep with them. But then you said it was a "chick" and kinda blew my idea off it's path. LOL

But yes I totally understand you. That has happened in my circle of friends plenty of times. Mainly with my BFF. Her roommate/friend and I just wasn't too fond of each other. We both knew we had to be around each other so we just tolerated each other when we had too. We understood how we felt about each other and that worked perfectly. We did eventually fall out but if she was willing to just stay within her boundaries and I in mine we wouldn't have no problems. BUT

She use to do the same thing like the girl in this post. Try to "out" me in front of the crowd...

Ignore her azz!

Go
(sorry for blogging in your comment section )

blackwomenblowthetrumpet.blogspot.com said...

Hey there!

I was cracking up sooo hard when reading this....

I have met many people like this.

Honestly, some of them don't even REALIZE that they are doing what you described... deep down they are needy for attention and probably fought for the attention of mommy with siblings and it just became second nature for them to adopt the "well me TOO!" mentality...

If you don't want the friendship, tell her why and give her the opportunity to work on her issues.

It's one thing if you just don't like her company...if THAT is the case then drop her...

It's another thing if she's cool but she has an annoying behavior trait that COULD BE changed and then you'd be fine with hanging out with her...

blackwomenblowthetrumpet.blogspot.com said...

Oh...and by the way...I just visited your blog for the first time and didn't even introduce myself!

{handshakes}

Nice to meet you!