Monday, April 20, 2009

Too tired to learn

I've neglected this blog! I try but I get so caught up with other stuff going on that this shyt falls by the wayside! Once again I'm really going to try! This weekend was crazy. I got home Sunday morning at 8am! Who the hell does that! Me and TheJadedNYer do it! Every time I go out with her I don't get in to the wee hours of the morning! I'm not complaining because we always have a good time!

Anyway, I have so many ideas for a post but I'll stick with this one!

Ok. I don't have any children but I would like two one day. But if I had kiddies I would do anything for them. I figure the moment you decide to bring a child into the world then you do what you have to for them to have the best opportunities especially academically. I have a coworker/friend who has a 13 year old son. He's a nice kid,polite,quiet etc. He's almost nerdy/cornballish. Lawd forgive me I know that's not nice to talk about a child but I'm jus sayin! Anyway the kid is having problems with reading comprehension. So, he's having trouble in history and reading because he can't comprehend the essay questions. So, coworker decided to send him to Sylvan for help. He's been going on Mon-Wed-Sat for one hour each day. Can someone explain to me why the boy only goes now on Saturdays for 3 hours! Why you ask? Because she said she was tired when she came home from work and didn't feel like driving him to Sylvan. WHAT? Are you serious? She leaves at 5 takes a quick train ride then the express bus to Jersey she's home before 6! AND YOU'RE TOO DAMN TIRED TO TAKE YOUR KID TO SYLVAN! So you make the boy go for 3 damn hours on a Saturday. All because you're too tired to drive 15min oh yeah and you want to go to the gym! GTFOH! I have a lot of friends that have children some are single moms,most have husbands. But what they ALL have in common is they do ANYTHING for their children especially if has to do with academics!

I look back at my parents and realized that they did EVERYTHING for me where academics and sports was concerned. I was involved in so many activities. I know that it couldn't have been easy on my parents timewise but they made it happen. I wanted to run for a specific track club and had to be driven an hour there, practice for two hours and be driven an hour home! This went on all summer. I went to at least 2 basketball camps,2 track camps and a soccer camp in the summer all while going to summer school so I would always be ahead. I can just imagine if I needed extra help in a subject what they would do. In 10th grade I was doing horrible in math. My mom hired a tutor immeadiately for two days a week. I look at my sister and she drives my nephew an hour each way to golf lessons. As I stated earlier. I can't imagine not going out of my way for my child especially if it had to with academics. Damn if you paid the $2000 to send him to Sylvan. Why on earth wouldn't you send him the three days a week like you used to. If he has problems with reading comprehension do you really think he's going to retain everything in one three hour setting per week?

When this lady talks to me it irks the hell out of me to hear her say this shyt to me! I never say a word I just listen because I know people get very defensive about their children. I do know the moment I have a child. I will do anything to make sure their life is better!


chele said...

It's a slippery slope. While I agree that once you decide to have children you're life is no longer your own (I know first hand) it is also true that sometimes we have to make certain compromises in order to strike a balance.

Serenity3-0 said...

Interesting. My first question was, if my kid was having problems in any area, I'd be tutoring him until he got it and if that didn't work, we'd get professional help. I recall the days of kindegarten and preschool where I wanted to teach Tyler at home and challenge him and I made him do book reports, workbook pages, etc. We don't have to do that now b/c he's well advanced for his grade, but there was one time when he said he wasn't very good wiht math. Man that made me so mad. WHen I finished with him, he thought he was Albert Einstein. LOL! That parent just sounds lazy to me.

ShellyShell said...

I think there should be balance too. I don't think parents should give up their lives for their children. But when I ask her what she does when she goes home she said gets in her bed! I also think she doesn't check his homework and he says he did it and she says ok. My thought is if you know your child is struggling I think you would go over homework.

My thoughts exactly. I remember reading your blog early on and you making Tyler do book reports. My mom made me read the newspaper everyday and write a summary on what I read. I had to do that till the end of 8th grade! She seems lazy to me as well!

Rashan Jamal said...

All I saw was $2000 for Sylvan... kids are expensive. LOL