Tuesday, September 1, 2009

Lies Lies Lies

How do you get past the fact that someone extremely close to you lied? In my opinion there's nothing worse than a liar and a thief.

My bf thinks I'm blowing this a little out of proprotion but understands where I'm coming from. I've been going through this for the past six days and I need to make a decision if I want this person in my life or to just walk away. I've been told that if I just walk away that I'm making a mistake. Hmmm would I be making a mistake? It would be a decision I have to live with. If I made it i'd be ok with it. I'm not going to waver back and forth on it. I'm just trying to figure out am I being extra. Will this happen again? I know why it happened but I don't think a lie needed to be told. Ahhh decisons decisions.

8 comments:

chele said...

It's hard to trust people who lie to you. I'm quick to walk away from liars and never look back. I'm not saying that's the answer because as I've gotten older, I'm learning that everyone makes mistakes and everyone deserves a second chance.

Rashan Jamal said...

depends what the lie was. I'm of the opinion that everybody lies when it serves the right purpose. Just depends if it was something malicious or something small.

Not so Anonymous said...

Hmmm...like most situations, this one probably depends on more than the lie told. Good luck

Aretha

Irene Robertson said...

Yep, gotta agree with those above...it all depends on the lie told and why it was told.

12kyle said...

sounds to me that you aren't gonna classify the size of the lie. you're hurt by the fact that they lied. i can't blame you.

i guess you have to figure out where you could place this person in your life. it depends on their level of importance to you. pray on it and let God guide your heart

Keith said...

It depends on what the lie was and how much damage it caused..If it didn't cause much damage and was just a lie...I'd say, take a little time and forgive and forget Shell...Life is short and fragile... Too short for beefs...
That's just my take on it.

ShellyShell said...

Thanks everyone for your comments. I appreciate it. I know I can fly off the deep end sometime so I wanted opinions from people. A few years ago I wouldn't have entertained forgiving the person. I would have been like oh well you lied...goodbye. But as Chelle said everyone deserves a second chance. I'm all for that but I just wonder if I can trust this person again. Because right now I don't believe shit they tell me. "Oh you're going to work?" I don't believe you. You're going pee....I don't believe you! I know it's extra. It's just how I feel now.

Everyone is telling me to give a second chance. I guess my fear is what if I get burned? I will go absolutely balistic! I have prayed on it and thought long and hard. I think I may accept the person back on a probationary period(90 days). Sounds crazy...I know that's me!
Thanks y'all!

suga said...

I'm dealing with a similar situation. The person lied. And I can see why, but it was a MAJOR lie, and completely unneccessary in my opinon.

Making that decision to keep them around is really stressing me out, so I definitely understand where you're coming from.