Monday, December 8, 2008

Family..Can't live with em can't live without em

I told you all about the argument me and my sister got into over my nephew. That was two months ago and me and my sister still haven't spoke. I know what I'm about to say isn't good. But I'm going to say it anyway. It doesn't bother me not to speak to her. I love her and never want to see anything bad happen to her or her family(maybe her stupid azz husband...hehe). But I don't feel a great sense of loss. I think it's because this time I wasn't wrong. I've been known to flip the eff out! I told my nephew to do what he wanted to do in relation to his major. I said this is YOUR life and you have to live it the way YOU see fit. It's not mine your mom or dad's!You're going going to make mistakes as we all did but you have to do what makes you happy. If you don't want to be a doctor then don't if you want to major in finance. Have at it! I stand by what I say to this day and I would tell him the same thing! I'm all for the agree to disagree but what pissed me off the most was her attack on my character. She said I was a horrible aunt and I had an opportunity to tell him something good and I didn't and that I need to grow up. I don't have any children so I can only imagine how hard it is to let go of someone you love so much to blossom. But I didn't tell him to drop out of college. I told him to follow his heart! So, when she said that to me I instantly went for the jugular and told her that her and her husband needed to learn how to be good parents because so far they have failed miserably! Now was all that necessary...probably not but I was defending my character.

A little background. I'm the youngest in my family. My sister is 8 years older, my bros are 12 and 16 years older. So,yeah I'm young by A LOT. My mom was married before then she married my dad and had me! I always ask my dad how the heck he could get with a woman who had three kids. I guess she had that "good good!" LMBAO! Anyway their dad has always played a part in their life and mine too. He's a good man. When my siblings would go see him for the weekend they always brought something back for me from him. Hell, he had to pick me up a few times from the airport when my parents couldn't make it. My dad and him used to be Bid Whist partners! Yeah, strange I know but the demise of their marriage had nothing to do with my dad. My siblings love my dad like he's their own. Anyway, my sister's dad has been sick for awhile. He lives in Dallas not to far from her. My mom called me to tell me he went in the hospital. I asked if I should not buy my ticket home and get one to Dallas. My mom says no, let's just wait and see. So, a few days later my sister calls me and leaves me this f*cked up message. Telling me that even though she's not talking to me. I really demonstrated that I didn't care and that her dad is on his death bed. Talks more ish then slams the phone down. All of this on my voicemail. Ten minutes later my mom calls me and said my sister was crying and ish saying that even though she's not talking to me that she can't believe I didn't call. Now I know I probably seem cold hearted but after speaking to my mom and her telling me that he wasn't that bad. Plus I know me. I know that I was still pissed off and after she left me that message I was livid so I knew if I called her my demeanor would not have been conducive to the situation. Needless to say I called her back and left her a message. I don't think it was mean(but I'm sure she thinks so). I told her how I didn't appreciate the message she left and the slamming down of the phone. I also told her one of the reasons I didn't call was because I didn't feel like I was going to be genuine. Of course I told her that if she spoke to me or my voice mail like that again I was going to pop the piss out of her. I know that wasn't necessary but damn if people can't just take me there. So, now I'm back to being pissed. I know life is too short and I shouldn't hold grudges but she tried to shoot down my character! Uggggg what to do!


eclectik said...



ShellyShell said...

Wow is all you have for me?

kayellejaye said...

That's a tough one.

Like you, I'm extremely stubborn and will cut a person off quick. On the other hand, I know what it's like to lose a sibling. And looking back at all the dumb stuff we went thru as kids, it doesn't matter once one of you is gone forever.

Besides grief and fear will make you do/say some crazy shit. I'd give her a break.

The F$%K it List said...

First, I don't think that you were wrong in what you said to your nephew. Your sister and her hubby can't try to control their childs life. that is Wrong on so many levels.

Now as for the relationship, you need to look past all this and resolve the issue with your sister. Because in the long run all you really have are your siblings. You've both said things that probably at this point were pointless, so just acknowledge that and move the heck on.

eclectik said...

LOL My bad, that's the first thing that came to mind

You were right

I couldnt give too much advice though...I hold grudges I dont care who it is lol

12kyle said...

i think you're right...but maybe you need to be the bigger person. don't hold a grudge. at the end of the day...that's your sister.

The F$%K it List said...

TAGGED SUCKA the 2nd blog on my page for today!

DollFace said...

I hear your voice as I'm reading this story! I remember when you first told me. But it's been awhile now...don't give into her antics but kill her with kindness. I agree with how you handled your nephew...but like you, I don't have a child. The holidays are always a good time to make up.