Jambalaya

What up people? I've been MIA yet again. I swear I'm going to try and really blog more. I think about it and then life happens. Lord KNOWS I have a lot of shit to say!

Anyway from my previous post my cousin's party was a success even with the dumb ass shit his sister was pulling. When she got here I was calm and she decided to defer shit to me because it MADE DAMN SENSE! He was surprised and everyone had fun.

I ran into "The Teacher" there because he helped me reach out to all the other teachers. It was good seeing him and he's still a cutie but there's no feelings on my part any longer(too much bullshit over a three year period). Although my friends say there was feeling on his part...lol! He danced with me all night! Awww!

That same night my debit card was phished and someone wiped out my entire bank account! Can you say PISSED! Raggedy ass Bank of America shut my shit down the week before for spending $49 on household items in Target and $36 at the grocery store but didn't shut off my card on 3 separate transactions at Target in STAMFORD, CT? Not to mention Macy's in White Plains, NY, Boston Market, Popeye's(this from the black person who's LEAST favorite meal is chicken)purchasing a metro card and a few other places! It caused holy hell for a few days!

I'm really getting tired of some people. I'm slowly deleting people from my circle for doing DUMB SHIT! I just can't take it!!

My sister moved to Denver from Dallas on Saturday. She said she got about 7 bloody noses due to the altitude change! My nephew and BIL are still living in Dallas until June! She's happy and sad...lol!

So George W. Bush thinks that what Kanye said about him not caring about black people is the lowest point of his presidency! Umm what about Katrina(the REASON why he said it). 9/11 comes to mind, the financial crisis,the war in Iraq. I just came up with FOUR low points of W's presidency and he comes up with what Kanye said about him! You W were a jackass then and your a jackass now! Fo Real!

I'm on SERIOUS workout mission. I got on the scale and I'm the HEAVIEST I've EVER BEEN! I don't look obese I'm just too heavy for my liking! I PROMISE IT WILL BE GONE BY JAN.13, 2011! I'm far too vain for this shit!

I need to make some moves SOON! Personally and professionally definitely the latter needs to be NOW!

I'm going to see HIS PURPLE MAJESTY on Dec.15! I CAN'T FRICKEN WAIT! People who know me in real life know that I LOVE him! I don't think it will be as dope as the Vegas show but it WILL BE DOPE!

I've been a reading machine lately! I've read 5 books in a month. What I need to be doing is reading all the damn magazines I subscribe to! *sigh*

Damn! Charlie Rangle was convicted on ethics charges...SHOCKER! When you walk out of your own hearing what the hell do you think is going to happen?

What's going on random with you guys?

Mad as Hell....

Lawd have mercy on me. I'm pissed the eff off right now! I'm planning my cousin's surprise 40th bday. He is my favorite cousin and we were practically raised together. He's 18 months older than me and like a brother. His sister is 9months younger than me and while he and I live in NYC she's a lawyer in Buffalo(where we're originally from).

Back in August I told her I wanted to throw S a surprise party she said yeah I'm down. I ONLY included her because that was the right thing to do. Y'all she's made this entire process a disaster. I LIVE IN NYC so I AM familiar with the places. Why is she trying to dictate where to have the party. She kept telling me 40/40 club. WHAT?? Are you effin serious? The mothereffin 40/40 Club. That place is a damn tourist trap. It's overpriced and wack as shit! My cousin does not want to be at a crowded ass club. He would want more of a lounge. I'm telling her all of this and this beyatch has the nerve and audacity to ask me if I was contributing any money? WHAT?? WHAT? IT WAS MY MOTHEREFFIN IDEA TO THROW YOUR EFFIN BROTHER A SURPRISE PARTY! I'M JUST COMING UP WITH IDEAS AND NOT GOING TO CONTRIBUTE ANYTHING! I was enraged at this. She has made this process miserable and I LOVE planning parties and gatherings.

We finally come to an agreement on where to have it. I go and speak to the events planner and in the middle of negotiating two comped bottles of champagne, removing the cake cutting fee and getting another bottle for half price. Why did this chick go and email the dude and tell him to book a table for 6 people? I was so fricken pissed off that I had to race to the place to speak to the man in person. Since she did this via phone and he knew she didn't know the layout of the place he placed her stupid ass in the back corner. Meanwhile I wanted the couches in the front. In the end I got the couches but I'm still negotiating the other stuff. I have NO idea why she would book a table for 6 people when I have a list of at least 28 of his friends. Fast forward to this morning. I received an Evite from my cousin about this party. Y'all this was the worst invitation I've ever seen. It was the Poker one that had a deck of cards. WTF does that theme have to do with a SURPRISE 40th? It at least came from me and her but in the subject line she just had "Surprise 40th bday party" Surprise for WHO? She was sending this evite out to people she didn't know and the address was wrong, she had her phone number(umm why? You don't live in NYC so if someone is lost etc you can't guide them) and told people to be there at 9(it's NYC NO ONE is going to be there at 9). Here's the kicker she locked the guest list so you couldn't invite anyone. Hey dumbass I have all his coworkers emails! I text her and ask her if she could unlock so I can merge the contacts. And to have everyone be at the party at 10 and we'll bring my cousin at 10:45. Guess what? No response. Evite still locked. So, guess what I did. I created an Evite and sent it to all the people I had emails for. Yeah, it's petty but how was I going to get the information out to his coworkers and his friends that she doesn't even know. She invited five people from Buffalo and not a single person from NYC. WTF? So, I ordered custom M&M's with my cousin's Kindergarten picture and some cupcakes. I didn't ask her because I don't want it be an issue. I'm not asking her for half the money. This is on me. I can't take it. This is so damn ridiculous and it could have been so easy.

What would you guys have done?

Will I be ALONE forever?

I know I know. I gotta get better. Trust me I've thought about writing numerous times. I'm really trying to get my life in order right now. My house, car and a tiny bit of my life are a mess.

Anyway, I've been dating the African for about 4 months and unfortunately I don't think he's the one for me. He is very thoughtful, affectionate and caring but I don't think he's the one. I tried something new, a little chubby, bad teeth and a lack of interest in sports but it ain't working! While he's smart he doesn't know A LOT of shit. I have close friends that told me that maybe I'm being too hard because I read a lot from pop culture to Eastern European politics but some shit I just feel you should have a little knowledge on. But my biggest pet peeve is I think he's a tad needy. I know I'm really independent and maybe to my detriment but I feel like he NEEDS a lot. I'll give you an example. A few weeks ago my girl was throwing her boyfriend a party. In order for the party to be a success I had to go over early(as soon she left to take him out) set up, let the dj in and just be the point person. After everything was set up I ran home showered grabbed the jello shots I made and went back. My name and phone number were on the Evite so people were calling me like crazy with "I'm running late, Is he there yet,Where do I park etc?" So after the surprise went off without a hitch and people were eating and dancing. Afro-Bx was there with a few of his friends and a lot of my friends were there. Everyone was mingling etc. I was talking but I was also making sure the liquor stayed flowing and just being a hostess. A few times some men came over and said how nice of a party it was and how they knew the birthday boy. Nothing out of line. At 2:30 Afro-Bronx said he was leaving and asked me if I was coming. I was like No. I told S I'd help her clean up etc. Then I said I'll see you tomorrow. He said cool. By the time we cleaned up and got everything together it was close to 4. A few of my friends that live in Jersey came to my house and we had a few more cocktails and chit chatted. On my way to my house I tried to call Afro Bx but of course he was sleep. Fast forward to Sunday afternoon. He and I had a conversation and this dude told me he was mad by the way I acted act the party. Arruuuuu? What? He said I didn't introduce him to some of the dudes that came up to me. Umm what? I didn't know them they were coming up saying it was a nice party blah blah blah. I was like dude it wasn't date night. I was running around being a hostess. Y'all I wasn't being disrespectful. Not one time was I anywhere near him when people were coming up to me. What was I supposed to say. "Please walk to the back of the patio with me so I can introduce you to the dude I date even though I don't know you."

The kicker for me was when he told me that it was problematic that my friends came over to my house! Bitch what? Are you fucking serious? Then he gives me a scenario about if he was helping his boy out and I came to the party with my friends then left and he decided to have an impromptu gathering at his house with his friends how would I feel. I said I wouldn't feel any type of way. I left. You chilled longer with your people and so what!

I'm a firm believer of chilling with your friends and having relationships outside of the person you're seeing. Those were your friends before me they should be your friends during and after. We don't have to intertwine our friends all the time. Sometimes you just want to talk and bug out with your people!

At the end of the day I need to be with someone who let's Shell be Shell.

Y'all I think I may be alone forever! Thoughts?

Random....

Donald Trump needs to go sit his ass down somewhere! Really? You think it's ok to come in and offer 25mil for the building plus 25%? It's NOT about the money son! These people want to put their mosque there and now you're disrespecting them by coming in offering them money. Just like their lawyer said you just want to be in the limelight! Sit your toupee wearing self down some where!

I see Matt Barnes beats chicks now! Although I heard he said he was the victim of domestic violence! According to the police reports they both had bruises! A mess. A hot damn mess.

Poor Barack. His approval rating is at an all time low and these damn republicans and tea party lovers are making it hard for his numbers to climb up. He inherited a big damn mess no thanks to Bush! But of course he's getting the blame for it. Like he started the recession. Unfortunately like I've been saying all alone. Barack is probably one term and done. These people DO NOT want to see a black man succeed. I still think he's doing a good job although I think he should have had a quicker response to the BP oil spill.

I'm on a mission to drop 15 pounds. I got a little chunky and I'm not liking it! It's not obvious to people and when I say I want to lose weight people are like why? In all my years I never gained weight in my stomach and I have now gained weight in my stomach. NO, I don't have a BIF(butt in the front) but I just feel chunky. I can't see my abs and it's driving me crazy! I could always see my abs! This shit is serious! I have been exercising my ass off and even went on the wagon. I will drink tomorrow night but not like I've been.

Let me let you in on a little secret! I watch Jersey Shore. The shyt is too funny. The funny thing is when I was in college I went to school with mofo's like this! I guess it just takes me down memory lane....lol!

I read that the father of Jennifer Hudson's nephew is accusing her of being a Free Mason and sacrificing his son for her career! WOW! In the same breath he was promoting his rap album! Ummmm last I knew Free Mason's had to be MEN! That shyt right there is just too stupid for words. If I was JHud I would sacrifice HIS ass.

Did y'all hear about that doctor in California who snuck in her on again off again boyfriend's fireplace. Well she is no more. Her ass got stuck in the chimney and now she's dead! Apparently the dude saw her and he snuck out of the front door. Three days later the housekeeper and her son find her body stuck in the damn fireplace. This was all over Dyck! For real? You're dead because of some dyck! That dude MUST have the don da da dyck! I ain't going out for no one over some D!

Oh yeah still kickin it with the African. He does some things that get on my nerves. I just need to find out if I can tolerate them. I know i'm not perfect and do some quirky weird shit and he puts up with me! Hmm we shall see....

Have a good weekend everyone!

Happy Labor Day!!!!

Happy Labor Day weekend everyone! I'm sad that the summer went by so fast but that's life and I had a great summer! I hope everyone enjoys their long weekend! I'm going to partake in some West Indian festivities this weekend. If it's anything like last year it will be one for the books!

Have a fun and safe weekend everyone!

Sidekick or Baby Mama?

I recently read the lastest edition of Haper's Bazarre. In it was an article with Savannah Brinson(the mother of LeBron James's children). There were a few things in the article that I found quite interesting.

One quote she had in the article was "I'm the mother of his children. I am not a baby mama. There's more to me than that." Hmmm really? For all of you that are single moms this is NOT directed toward you. I love marriage and family especially black marriages but when I see articles like this it burns me up. I feel like she's trying to rationalize her position in his life and it pisses me off. I don't think because you have a child you should marry the child's father because sometimes it just doesn't work like that. But to sit there and have two children by this man or any other man and be ok with just being his "sidekick" is not ok. Lebron isn't saying that he's going to ever marry her or that she is the one for me. In this article he states that she is his "sidekick." Arrruuu? Sidekick? Are you serious? The mother of his children is his "sidekick?" The thing that blows my mind is that she is ok with this. This is Lebron's statement "A person like myself needs a great sidekick and a person you can rely on no matter what the circumstances. And she is that, she's got my back and I love her for that." Once again I can't get past the sidekick part.

More and more black women are having children out of wedlock at a rate of nearly 70%. It makes no sense to continue doing this and have no intention on having a legal union. I know marriage IS NOT for everyone and I certainly don't expect women who have had a child from a man to just marry him because. This is focused to the ones who go out and have kids all willy nilly and NEVER having any intention to get married. I think women who do this are selling theirselves short. For those women who think that having a child will get the man to marry them are sadly mistaken too.

One part of the interview Savannah talks about being a role model to young women in her hometown of Akron. I don't get it. You were Lebron's highschool sweetheart who went on to have two children by him and will be paid for the rest of your life. She didn't go to college nor do anything else. I'm not knocking that she isn't nice(my hairdresser does her weaves and says she's the sweetest girl). But what are you showing these young women? To find a baller and have children and never get married and to be their "sidekick". STOP poppin' out babies to a man that doesn't think enough of you to give you a real status....WIFE!

What say you guys? Is being a sidekick better than a baby mama?

I'm Back.....

Ok , so I've been back since last Monday but in typical me fashion I'm just getting around to posting plus I've been spending beaucoup time with the Prince of Zumunda...lmao! Hmm what can I say. Costa Rica was beautiful. My only regret is that I didn't go to the volcano side and stay for two days then come to the ocean. Oh well I guess that means another trip! Yaaay!

The resort was nice and the people were friendly but of course it wouldn't be a trip if some added shit didn't happen. It was my idea to go to Costa and I arranged a lot of the travel with the group reservation manager. How about when I get there they didn't have a reservation for me and it was my damn birthday! I went to lunch and they "found" a room for me. They felt bad and supplied me with chocolate covered strawberries(too bad I don't like chocolate) and a bottle of champagne! The next day they called me and said they were upgrading my room to one with an enclosed patio. Great right? NOT! I spent one night there and I was it it's a little warm in here but I didn't pay any attention. My home girl came on Wednesday and we we're sharing a room. She was so excited that she didn't really notice the temperature. The next day we went zip lining(which was the shit...will post video soon) and I told the front desk to please check on the AC...again(I had already told them once). After we get back we get a call saying the AC was not fixable and we would have to move! WTF? They knew this was going to be my third room so we got the ultimate upgrade! THE ROYAL SERVICE! We had our own private butler, pillow menu,private pool etc. I really didn't utilize the services because most of my other friends were in the section of the hotel we left and they weren't allowed in this section. To me I couldn't leave them out since they came to Costa to celebrate my bday. To tell the truth the Royal Service pool area was wack! LOL!

Here are a few pics until I upload the pics and the video of me ziplining upside down thru the jungle! The last picture is me in the front. We rode ATV's before we went ziplining. I loved how we were able to get so close to the people!